"There are three 'musts' that hold us back," he wrote. "I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy."
We upset ourselves with the grandiose requirement that we should perform perfectly, and that others should be nice to us. But in fact we are imperfect: we fail, in love and in work, all the time. And other people, often enough, "act like jerks"."
Albert Ellis.
I very much like R.E.B.T. and C.B.T. and think they are philosophically correct.
They are of course similar to Stoicism and also other ancient philosophies.
There are those who accuse REBT/CBT of being pro-capitalist and stuff like that.
And they are accused of encouraging conformity and acceptance of circumstances that are adverse and which are adverse but could be changed.
Well they are pretty much the same thing as Stoicism anyway.
And Stoicism is not pro-capitalist per se obviously.
We upset ourselves with the grandiose requirement that we should perform perfectly, and that others should be nice to us. But in fact we are imperfect: we fail, in love and in work, all the time. And other people, often enough, "act like jerks"."
Albert Ellis.
I very much like R.E.B.T. and C.B.T. and think they are philosophically correct.
They are of course similar to Stoicism and also other ancient philosophies.
There are those who accuse REBT/CBT of being pro-capitalist and stuff like that.
And they are accused of encouraging conformity and acceptance of circumstances that are adverse and which are adverse but could be changed.
Well they are pretty much the same thing as Stoicism anyway.
And Stoicism is not pro-capitalist per se obviously.